Living
Some Things Which Are Majorly Wrong With The Indian Dating Scene
Dating is not an easy affair in India
Text Credit: Shibul Pavithran
The proportion of men to women on dating apps like tinder is worse than the gender ratio in Rajasthan and Haryana combined. Dating in India is not easy. Ask any guy of the approximate age of twenty and you will hear the dreadful tale of heartbreaks, rejections and disappointments. Even the girls have had their fair share of bad experiences, the only difference being that they mostly have an upper hand in the game and some lag behind due to lack of exposure. The inverted conventional attitude has been suffocating our women since ages, it has also been depriving our men of fair treatment in the dating scene, and life in general .
Lets look at some dating rules and concepts in India that are fundamentally crippled that you would wonder how dating is even possible in our country, and will make you hold on to your valentine for life.
1.) The guy is expected to propose first:
Ladies, we know that you like to feel all supreme, but for a change be a little understanding and mellow out the differences. It won’t demean your position in a relationship if you are the first to take that chance in the relationship. Some guys are a bit shy you know! And moreover with this whole feminazi wave hitting the ceiling, it becomes all the way tougher to approach. On the same page if we don’t take that chance, we are called as a chicken without wings.
2) Women who take the lead are considered to be easy:
It is equally irritating to see men judging women who actually take the lead. Leaving a few, most see women who take the lead as easy and low on self-esteem.Why does your interest in a women fizzle out if she proposes you first? Guys first decide whether it is the ego or principal you wanna satisfy, or is it just the desire to have women by your side.
3) If you have sex too soon, it is only a booty call, not a relationship:
Sex is definitely an important part of a relationship, and is very different from love. Having sex too early and too often does not make the relationship shallow, rather it heats it up. What makes it shallow is not the intimacy factor but lack of love and care towards each other.
4) If she leaves him he must be a loser; if he leaves her he is the bad guy:
Talking about how unfair we are to men, they really have a hard time making choices. If a guy decides to end a relationship, there is no way he can do it without looking like a weird guy. But if a girl decides to leave him, he must be a loser for sure, and she is better off without him. It’s never a girls fault, coz she is always perfect.
5) Live-in sex is a rape if the guy refuses to marry her:
Consensual sex does not become rape in any case, even if he refuses to marry her. As an adult, it is both the man and woman’s decision to move in together, and share the bed of love. Now if things haven’t worked out the way that you wanted it, she shouldn’t call sex as rape. This is one provision by the law and the recent outrage of the universal ‘#metoo campaigns’ that has taken men by the balls, and we think it can be at times slightly unfair, if it was mutual.
6) Casual dating is judged:
We Indian’s still have not got used to the concept of casual dating. Whatever happened to the idea of some harmless casual fun? Not every relationship can be a be a very serious affair, some are just for the heck of it or just to get a taste of the experience. As adults, we have the right to enjoy intimacy without the emotional atychaar of a serious relationship. No wonder, the youth of our country is frustrated.
7) A relationship has to always end in marriage:
It is great feeling to be in love, be romantic and talk about our dreams together, but not all good love stories manage to get hitched. The fear of marriage and the responsibility of futuristic family life has nipped many of love stories right in the bud.
8)Men are easily perceived as creeps:
Now this may stand really true, considering the current Indian dating scene, but really girls, if a guy asks you how are you at eleven in the night or tried to offer you a lift in his car, just because he saw you walk alone at night, doesn’t always have to mean that the guy is a creep. He was probably too busy to message you in the day or may he just cares for someone walking alone at night, respectively. We are too quick to stereotype all men as stalkers and creeps.
9) Women have to be always wooed and pampered:
Every romantic date is always about women. Get her flowers, get her the right kinda gifts, pamper her, pick her up for dates. True, every women likes to be pampered, but not at the cost of making a guy stand on his toes. It’s high time we give men their dues. For example: In Japan on Valentine’s day the guy gets all the gifts and they are pampered, we should bring some kinda change in our system too.
10) Shaadi.com is good. But Tinder is bad.
It is perfectly fine to browse through and look for someone on Shaadi.com but online dating apps like Tinder are looked down upon. Oh shizz,your mummy will even offer to pay for a membership on the matrimonial site. But tell somebody that you are on Tinder, and you will instantly be judged and may also be interrogated for your acts.
11) A married couple hanging out is cute. Lovers hanging out is pure evil and shameless act:
Marriage is seen as a official stamp of a relationship. Married couples can attend functions together, hold hands on the road, show slight levels of PDA( Public Display of Affection) and do whatever, but lovers? Oh no, sir. They will be married off forcefully or have to face scrutiny by the state police, family and public, just for hanging out in parks and streets. Dating is definitely not an easy task in India.
These are some of the dating concepts that we feel are vintage and orthodox and really require a change.
Do you agree?
will you be able to point out more?
Art
Navratri 2024: Celebrating the Nine Colours and Their Significance
Navratri, the festival that spans nine nights, is one of the most auspicious and widely celebrated festivals in India. Dedicated to the worship of Goddess Durga in her nine forms, each day of Navratri holds special significance, marked by a distinct color that carries deep spiritual and cultural meaning. As we prepare for Navratri 2024, let’s explore the nine colors associated with each day, their significance, and how they inspire devotion, positivity, and harmony.
Day 1: Yellow
On Thursday, embrace the uplifting energy of yellow as you celebrate Navratri with optimism and joy. This warm and cheerful color symbolizes happiness and radiates positivity, keeping you in high spirits throughout the day.
Day 2: Green
On Friday, wear green, a color that represents nature, growth, and harmony. It evokes a sense of peace and serenity, while also symbolizing new beginnings. Let the vibrant energy of green invite tranquility and the blessings of the Goddess into your life.
Day 3: Grey
Saturday calls for the subtle sophistication of grey. This balanced color keeps you grounded and calm, symbolizing composure and understated elegance. It’s perfect for those who want to participate in Navratri with grace while making a refined style statement.
Day 4: Orange
On Sunday, adorn yourself in the vibrant hue of orange. This color embodies warmth, exuberance, and positivity. Wearing orange during Navratri invokes an upbeat energy, bringing vitality and a lively spirit to your celebrations.
Day 5: White
Start your Monday with the purity and serenity of white. Associated with innocence and spiritual clarity, this color invites inner peace and helps you connect with the divine blessings of the Goddess, offering a sense of security and calm.
Day 6: Red
On Tuesday, red takes center stage, symbolizing passion, love, and strength. As one of the most auspicious colors, red is often offered to the Goddess in the form of a Chunri. Wearing red fills you with energy, vigor, and the vibrant spirit of Navratri.
Day 7: Royal Blue
Wednesday’s color is royal blue, representing elegance, richness, and tranquility. This deep, vivid shade of blue exudes confidence and sophistication, making it an ideal choice for those who want to celebrate Navratri with style and grace.
Day 8: Pink
On Thursday, don the charming hue of pink, a symbol of universal love, affection, and harmony. Pink is a color that adds a soft touch of warmth and approachability, making it perfect for creating a loving and joyful atmosphere during the festivities.
Day 9: Purple
On the final day of Navratri, purple takes the spotlight. Associated with luxury, nobility, and grandeur, purple invites opulence into your life. Wearing this regal color while worshipping Navdurga bestows blessings of prosperity and richness, making it the perfect way to end your Navratri celebrations.
Luxury
Cartier’s New High Jewellery Collection is a Love For The Wild
In 2021, the American Museum of Natural History in New York presented Beautiful Creatures, an exhibition showcasing some of the most eccentric jewellery designs of the past century. One standout piece was the iconic crocodile necklace of Mexican actress María Félix, a loyal Cartier patron. Félix, renowned for her bold sense of style, famously strolled into Cartier’s Paris store in 1975 with her pet crocodile, requesting a necklace in its likeness. Cartier delivered, crafting two intertwined crocodiles encrusted with over a thousand emeralds and yellow diamonds. For Félix, crocodiles symbolized freedom, an embodiment of the spirit she associated with Mexico’s Golden Age of cinema.
Fast forward to today, and Félix’s wildest dreams seem to have come to life at Cartier’s latest high jewellery collection, Nature Sauvage, previewed at the historic Kursalon Hübner gallery in Vienna. Among the star pieces is the Koaga necklace, a masterful creation where a zebra clasps an emerald-cut diamond and a 6.25-carat pear-shaped rubellite in its mouth. The zebra’s form is exquisitely rendered in alternating onyx stripes and pavé diamonds, making the creature feel almost lifelike.
The relationship between animals and jewellery has deep mythological roots, often glorified through rituals and symbolism. In ancient Egypt, scarab beetles were worn as earrings to signify respect for life’s cyclical nature. Meanwhile, in Hellenistic Greece, gods and goddesses took on the forms of winged creatures in adornment. So, what is it about animal-themed jewellery that continues to captivate us? According to Amanda Triossi, a jewellery historian based in Rome, the allure lies in our primal instincts: “Wearing wild animals like panthers or tigers gives one the sense of having conquered them. It’s empowering, as if you inherit the animal’s strength and attributes.”
Cartier captures this essence beautifully in its Amphista necklace. Featuring two intertwined snakes with diamond scales set with emeralds, their heads adorned with kite-shaped diamonds, the necklace echoes ancient Chinese philosophy’s yin-yang balance. The pièce de résistance? Nine octagonal Colombian emeralds, weighing a total of 14.72 carats.
Triossi also notes that many historical heroes are often depicted draped in the skins of animals they’ve vanquished, a symbol of triumph. Today, jewellery transforms that symbol into something precious and eternal—animal skins reimagined in imperishable materials.
Later that evening, at a celebration held at Vienna’s Kunsthistorisches Museum, the largest in Austria, the enchantment of Cartier’s collection was heightened. The museum’s octagonal domes featured paintings of animals dancing with angels, setting the stage for a magical night. Guests were greeted by masterpieces such as Rembrandt’s Self-Portrait and Caravaggio’s Madonna of the Rosary, alongside Cartier page boys in their signature red hats. The evening’s soundtrack, a seamless blend of Bach and Kygo, was curated by DJ Gillian Sagansky, lending a modern twist to the classical ambiance.
The following day brought another cultural adventure—a visit to Otto Wagner’s Villa, a stunning summer palace designed by the famed architect. The paintings adorning the villa’s walls depicted animals in various forms—some caught in purgatory, others wandering the biblical bardo, with alligators restlessly emerging from swampy landscapes.
Luxury
Indian Craftsmanship Meets Italian Savoir Faire : Rahul Mishra x Tod’s
Quiet luxury was expected to dominate for a while, with many predicting that the return of bold, extravagant fashion would take its time. However, maximalism seems to be making a swift comeback, especially in the realm of designer collaborations. Hot on the heels of the vibrant, print-heavy H&M x Anamika Khanna collection, another limited-edition line has arrived, celebrating opulent luxury: Rahul Mishra x Tod’s.
As part of Tod’s T-Factory project, which features exclusive collaborations with creative innovators, this marks Indian couturier Rahul Mishra’s debut in the international accessories space.
Mishra is a true ambassador of Indian design. Along with his wife Divya Mishra, he leads his eponymous label, which has brought the essence of India to the global stage in remarkable ways. A regular at Paris Fashion Week and the first Indian designer to showcase at Paris Haute Couture Week, his creations have adorned celebrities like Zendaya and Mark Zuckerberg, and have graced magazine covers in South Korea, China, and Europe. With such a path-defining legacy, it’s no surprise that Mishra and his visionary label were Tod’s natural choice for their first-ever Indian collaboration.
Mishra describes this collaboration as a beautiful fusion of “Italian craftsmanship serving as the canvas for Indian vision.” Tod’s iconic Gommino loafers and mules, along with the Di Bag and T Timeless shoulder bag, have been reimagined with intricate resham embroidery, crystals, and sequins—all meticulously hand-embroidered at Mishra’s atelier in Noida. “It was a technically challenging process that took time to perfect. I can confidently say these are some of the finest bags and shoes you’ll ever witness, in terms of craftsmanship and longevity. Such pieces are forever,” Mishra proudly shares.
Crafted entirely between India and Italy, the limited-edition pieces from this collection are a true love letter to the artisanal heritage of both nations. “There’s a beauty in the teamwork here,” Mishra explains. “We received raw materials from Italy and worked on integrating our embroideries seamlessly into their leather. The pieces were then sent back to Tod’s, where they transformed them into stunning, three-dimensional products. In that sense, it’s been a genuine collaboration between Italy and India.”
Mishra firmly believes that the future of global design will be shaped by a global Indian aesthetic. “Just as French, Italian, British, and Japanese designs are now seen as universal,” he explains. This collaboration marks a significant step in advancing that narrative. “When you push the boundaries of ‘handmade in India’ to be respected at the pinnacle of luxury, everything else will naturally follow,” he emphasizes.
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