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The proportion of men to women on dating apps like tinder is worse than the gender ratio in Rajasthan and Haryana combined. Dating in India is not easy. Ask any guy of the approximate age of twenty and you will hear the dreadful tale of heartbreaks, rejections and disappointments. Even the girls have had their fair share of bad experiences, the only difference being that they mostly have an upper hand in the game and some lag behind due to lack of exposure. The inverted conventional attitude has been suffocating our women since ages, it has also been depriving our men of fair treatment in the dating scene, and life in general .
Lets look at some dating rules and concepts in India that are fundamentally crippled that you would wonder how dating is even possible in our country, and will make you hold on to your valentine for life.
1.) The guy is expected to propose first:
Ladies, we know that you like to feel all supreme, but for a change be a little understanding and mellow out the differences. It won’t demean your position in a relationship if you are the first to take that chance in the relationship. Some guys are a bit shy you know! And moreover with this whole feminazi wave hitting the ceiling, it becomes all the way tougher to approach. On the same page if we don’t take that chance, we are called as a chicken without wings.
2) Women who take the lead are considered to be easy:
It is equally irritating to see men judging women who actually take the lead. Leaving a few, most see women who take the lead as easy and low on self-esteem.Why does your interest in a women fizzle out if she proposes you first? Guys first decide whether it is the ego or principal you wanna satisfy, or is it just the desire to have women by your side.
3) If you have sex too soon, it is only a booty call, not a relationship:
Sex is definitely an important part of a relationship, and is very different from love. Having sex too early and too often does not make the relationship shallow, rather it heats it up. What makes it shallow is not the intimacy factor but lack of love and care towards each other.
4) If she leaves him he must be a loser; if he leaves her he is the bad guy:
Talking about how unfair we are to men, they really have a hard time making choices. If a guy decides to end a relationship, there is no way he can do it without looking like a weird guy. But if a girl decides to leave him, he must be a loser for sure, and she is better off without him. It’s never a girls fault, coz she is always perfect.
5) Live-in sex is a rape if the guy refuses to marry her:
Consensual sex does not become rape in any case, even if he refuses to marry her. As an adult, it is both the man and woman’s decision to move in together, and share the bed of love. Now if things haven’t worked out the way that you wanted it, she shouldn’t call sex as rape. This is one provision by the law and the recent outrage of the universal ‘#metoo campaigns’ that has taken men by the balls, and we think it can be at times slightly unfair, if it was mutual.
6) Casual dating is judged:
We Indian’s still have not got used to the concept of casual dating. Whatever happened to the idea of some harmless casual fun? Not every relationship can be a be a very serious affair, some are just for the heck of it or just to get a taste of the experience. As adults, we have the right to enjoy intimacy without the emotional atychaar of a serious relationship. No wonder, the youth of our country is frustrated.
7) A relationship has to always end in marriage:
It is great feeling to be in love, be romantic and talk about our dreams together, but not all good love stories manage to get hitched. The fear of marriage and the responsibility of futuristic family life has nipped many of love stories right in the bud.
8)Men are easily perceived as creeps:
Now this may stand really true, considering the current Indian dating scene, but really girls, if a guy asks you how are you at eleven in the night or tried to offer you a lift in his car, just because he saw you walk alone at night, doesn’t always have to mean that the guy is a creep. He was probably too busy to message you in the day or may he just cares for someone walking alone at night, respectively. We are too quick to stereotype all men as stalkers and creeps.
9) Women have to be always wooed and pampered:
Every romantic date is always about women. Get her flowers, get her the right kinda gifts, pamper her, pick her up for dates. True, every women likes to be pampered, but not at the cost of making a guy stand on his toes. It’s high time we give men their dues. For example: In Japan on Valentine’s day the guy gets all the gifts and they are pampered, we should bring some kinda change in our system too.
10) Shaadi.com is good. But Tinder is bad.
It is perfectly fine to browse through and look for someone on Shaadi.com but online dating apps like Tinder are looked down upon. Oh shizz,your mummy will even offer to pay for a membership on the matrimonial site. But tell somebody that you are on Tinder, and you will instantly be judged and may also be interrogated for your acts.
11) A married couple hanging out is cute. Lovers hanging out is pure evil and shameless act:
Marriage is seen as a official stamp of a relationship. Married couples can attend functions together, hold hands on the road, show slight levels of PDA( Public Display of Affection) and do whatever, but lovers? Oh no, sir. They will be married off forcefully or have to face scrutiny by the state police, family and public, just for hanging out in parks and streets. Dating is definitely not an easy task in India.
These are some of the dating concepts that we feel are vintage and orthodox and really require a change.
Do you agree?
will you be able to point out more?
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